Over the past two years , I have been changing my lifestyle in a significant way . Those of you who know me would understand . I am a person who doesn’t really like partying , but parties ( comparatively ) a lot . I never liked alcohol with the exception of Baileys ( under the influence of that someone ) …yet for the past year and a half, I consumed more alcohol than my past 20 years on mother earth . Is it a bad thing ? Well , it depends how you look at it . I can control my urges ( some of them ) and hopefully will be still able to control them in the future …but this post isn’t about partying and booze now..isn’t it ?

The last couple of days , a friend of mine , a childhood friend of mine broke up with his first girlfriend . His first ever girlfriend . This guy doesn’t talk much and is such a nice humble guy at heart . His ex dumped him for reasons still unknown to the modern civilized world . He keeps on saying ` It’s just like she doesn’t remember what I’ve done for her ? ‘ . The girl ? Well , to me she isn’t the hottest thing on the market neither is she close to the word HOT in my dictionary , but she treats him like utter dirt after landing the anvil on his head . What IS GOING ON ?

Ever since I involved myself in the entertainment industry and mixed around , I’ve seen so many type of shit it’s hard to believe . I’ve seen Innocent `looking ‘ Miss Malaysia World contestants sell their `service’ ( if you know what kind of service am I talking about ) for a 4 digit figure , girls who have boyfriends just cheat on them without conscience with other richer guys , girls who go on ` holidays ‘ with older men twice their age …yeah holidays , and girls who are just pure gold diggers . That is just scratching the surface of what I’ve experienced beforehand .

I finally came to the conclusion that good girls are hard to come by these days . Good in my definition is someone who can be trusted , depended on , I am attracted to and can sincerely care for me . Hidden would be a suitable word used describing finding them . Either that , or their already taken ( and won’t cheat on their current partner ) .

I see friends meeting really hot beautiful girls but in the end get disappointed with what they discover over time . I see friends go after gorgeous girls only to be used and get depressed over the whole drama . What a modern world we live in . Is there really something deemed as LOVE ? Because I believe , and I really do believe in this …. When it all boils down , after all the flirting , chasing and glamorous fun … a guy just wants to spend his life with ONE girl who he really loves .

Now don’t get me wrong , I’m not saying that they are NO good girls these days . I said hard to find , not extinct . I know of a few really great girls worth any guy’s time . They’re trustworthy , dependable , attractive and knows how to take care of their guy . I’m with one right now .

Although  it’s really hard for me to adapt to the new conditions that me and my girl are in , it’s worth the time and effort . I know it’s not going to be easy …easy is paying the next slutty girl you see at Jalan Alor , for an hour of her time . Commitment is taking bus rides and drives back and forth from Perak to KL and Singapore constantly to see somebody . Paying the heaping phone bills , and calming yourself down when someone’s un-contactable .

Good girls are hard to find , when you find one , you gotta hold on to them the best you can  .

It’s a hard journey , but I’m learning a lot from it .

-David Lai