Hey man , I’m in some deep serious shit man . I met this girl a while back and she’s like really great dude . She’s smart , extremely gorgeous , funny , sweet , adorable cute …just heavenly man , you have just got to see and talk to her . She the cutest and sweetest thing that came by in my life . I went after her , we became a couple and life couldn ‘t be better . She has class and thats a really big thing for me to say to a girl .
I know man , you and the guys have seen me with many girls since the time you’ve known me and after that bad break up … Yeah , I know, shame on me for going out to see whether or not I could love someone as much as I loved her …you should know better man . But this girl , this girl is just different from the rest .She makes me go the extra mile just to see her smile a little , makes me go crazy not to pick up the phone and call her at times so that I don’t seem like a desperate boyfriend…and dude , it has been a long long time since a girl could make my heart beat so much faster . I know what you’re thinking man , you’re saying what the fuck am i talking about right ? I sound like a guy in those freaking newspaper advice columns ….I know man !!!!! Thats what’s FREAKING ME OUT SO MUCH !!!!
This girl, doesn’t call me even when I’m her boyfriend , has never uttered the words I miss you , I think of you , I love you and let’s not even get to the presents or gifts because she gave me nothing man for the past 4 months . Nothing !not even a single sweet or card …Even girls who have crushes on me give me sweets!. I know dude, you’re now saying , Man , she’s just playing hard to get , don’t give in . WTF??? What the FUCK man !, she’s already my girlfriend for goodness sake , doesn’t that technically says ` I already got her to a certain extent ?’ , and ya man , when I asked her on whether she still liked her ex….she kept silent ….Oh MY GOD,if you can see my face now , my jaw is droping over , and my eye balls are out of it’s damn sockets , do you know how hurt I felt at that moment ? Imagine having your own gurl saying that she still liked her ex , her ex still messages her and is trying hard to get her back ….
Owwwh , this is so freaking depressing dude,I’ve never thought of girl this way . I know , you’re saying that she’s just using you and by making her harder to get , she’ll make you want her even more….dude , you know me man , I’ve dated many types of girls , the hard to get , the beautiful hard to get and the really hard to get , this one beats them all , she’s just driving me crazy . I love her to heart , but I can’t say what I feel because i’m scared I’ll just sound weak and needy . I try my best to be a good if not a great boyfriend but it just doesn’t seem to work . Does she like her ex so much that she can’t open her heart to me? If yes why din’t she take the chance to get back with him when she had the chance but choose instead to stay with me ???WHY???Dude, I love her with all my heart and soul , I know I can’t change a person’s free will but I can change my own decision….Please help me man, I can’t help myself no more and you’re the closest thing to the word `help’ other than the dictionary.
-Cigam Nai via e-mail
Heyz bro , how’s life there ? Heard that you’re having it tough these days balancing everything together . It’s been a long time since we’ve chatted bro .
I guess life’s hitting hard on you . You finally found someone that could replace that hole in your heart but that someone somehow changes after her ex comes back into the picture . I ‘m sure you freaked out , started to treat her nicer , get her stuff , do favours for her hoping that you won ‘t lose out to the `ex ‘ and do loads of other crazy stuff to make her happy . What do you get ?……
I won’t give a long lecture cause I ain’t your mom and your mom loves you too much to see ya getin hurt like that .Be who you are , the guy that I used to know .The guy that used to chat with me knew how to be confident , knew what was attraction and that attraction wasn’t a choice towards the other sex if you played your cards right . Where is the funny and confident asshole I once knew ?
My best advice ? If you really do love her man , be a great boyfriend , be honest with her , don ‘t lie to her just so that you can hide your feelings . Treat her with respect , open doors for her , go see her when she’s sad ,…treat her like how you used to treat that girl you once like so much . Don’t blame the ex just because he’s trying to get her back . You said yourself that she is a beauty to behold , how can another guy resist ? I’m not suprised if her ex is not the only one after her ….
Be a great guy and I wish you all the best with your girl . I know I can’t help much but do try to be strong and remember girls aren’t all there is in this life . Take care .
-David Lai